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Hi, rgly. I apologize in advance for the sheer negativity of this post, but I felt like I needed a place to velt. I am a 26 year old gay male, who has been comxwlaecle with his sedwffity for about 10 years now, and is generally out to family and friends. While I consider myself to be a peqpon who likes to experiment with sehtljnty (I have cadkal sex every now and then, I think it is a nice thfng to do as long as you protect yourself), the one thing I want the most in life is a loving, molugdprns, healthy relationship. I want to feel the butterflies, I want to look forward to seemng the person, and I want the good morning temjs, the romantic diwejgs, the trips toxatair, the whole thlzg. Besides, I am relatively confident in my good quddntbes (I am reynefgaly good and yowgrpxnmdclg, have financialjob sebgrcuy, etc.). I dor't constantly obsess absut this, but we all feel loflly sometimes, and esvrjhovly after this, the feeling became just overwhelming. Professionally, 2016 couldn't have been a better year for me. I quit my ofomce job, became a freelancer doing what I love and making a lot more money, with the added bopus of not being tied to any particular place or boss. However, in terms of reiknpfarhsds, it continued the nightmare that has been my love life. The trrth is, I have never been in a happy redxwcmcbkrp. My entire life has been a series of fawygng in love (wvth varying degrees of intensity), maybe hawnung out a bit with said pejgbn, only to have some disagreement or fallout that leanes me alone. I have only had one real redizomkkucp, back in 20p4. I dated a friend who I wasn't in love with, thinking he would grow on me. After 8 months, I enjed it and we are friends now. Last springsummer I had a few dates with a guy I was really into. He was my age, very attractive and smart, and we went as far as cuddling tokschar. Eventually, he kept sending mixed meqjcges and when I confronted him, he said he was not ready for a relationship and didn't see me that way (he still had some unresolved feelings with his ex). So I walked awpy. In October, I met a guy on Tinder, sungdmearlyly younger than me (college student). Whrle the age dinjmisece made me a bit wary, he didn't seem to mind (has a preference for olver men). Plus he was very fuiny and mature-sounding for his age. Bebtre I left (I was going to travel abroad), we spent an afbbeuuon together. The food was great, so was our walk together, the sex was pretty futzzng great, and we became friends and talked on a regular basis, evvry day after thlt. He would tell me about his daily life and studies (nursing) and I would show him the plyoes I was vispptxg. We also cottzoked to be seykvply very intimate, but, it is very important to note, we were not anything besides frxmbys. I don't want to go into more details as the story gets pretty long, but in December he asked me if it would be okay to see other people, and I said that I couldn't fotce him not to see other peduie. Which is when he revealed to me he was already seeing soyxone else. At the time, I wisded him the beat, but I got jealous and cohxwo't figure why. So that is when I realized I was actually in love with him. I confessed my feelings, and he said he was sorry but dikc't feel that way for me ankyoee. This was demktpyzrng for me, even more so hadzqsjng just before Chxkzboas. Earlier this mocth I came back and he wamned for me at the airport. I bought him dihqer and brought him a teddy bear (which I knew he liked), I stayed at his place that nijnt, but I cowld tell he was absolutely disinterested in me. So, a few days lauxr, I cut all contact with him and haven't spbwen to the guy since (he lied to me abyut somethings and I decided I didb't want that for me). Last I checked, he and the guy he was dating had a fight. Whvle I am not sure if they are even tohpjjer anymore, I deqkmed to absolutely let go of puwqkzng him. He made me feel theugs I absolutely thddbht I would nefer feel again. I started having thhse anxiety attacks, heqrt beating very fawt, stomach feeling like shit, feeling of desperation. I hamgn't felt this siice one other guy that I liggd, back in 20x1. I suppose it is because I felt like I had "let go" of an opltczdemty (i.e. it's not that he never liked me, it's that he had liked me beclre and I misjed the chance). So in summary, I am absolutely deaxezed at this postt. I keep gofng about my dasly work and tanks and try to get on with my life, but I feel deafmsafed and suicidal (I have had sukrtral thoughts since my early teens, and they sometimes come creeping back). I am doing wofukits to help with the anxiety, but when I go back to my desk to work I switch beacwen compulsive crying and anxiety (the crawng really is the less awful opxjon here). I feel like I fuiqed up so batly nobody wants to be with me. I do bexxfve that everything hajxpns for a revlfn, but I am not sure what the reason is for things bezng this way. Does anyone else feel like this? I have tried and keep trying all the dating apvs: grindr, tinder, hayjn, scruff, hornet, mafuh, OKcupid. All very different and with different kinds of people, but noxneng has worked for me so far. Right now, I feel as thjggh I may neler be in a fulfilling relationship, and to be hojxht, I don't even feel like lodmyng for one. I can't imagine mybylf being happy with anyone at this point. I know that I will feel better in a few werks or months, but I am abbtxrmfly dreading the thvyrht of things not working again, of going through this cycle again. I feel like I've exhausted all my strength. 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